Do you see an outfit on someone else or on a mannequin while shopping and think “I love that!”, so you purchase it or something like it?
Or maybe you try on something quickly in the dressing room and you love it, but then when you get it home, you never reach for it? When you try it on at home, you may think “I can’t pull this off” or “something isn’t right”. So it continues to hang in your closet unused.
In order to STOP doing this in the future, we need to understand the WHY first. Once we understand why, then we can change our behaviour when we shop. So, I am going to explain some reasons why and how to overcome it so that you can save your time and money in the long run.
1. You are stuck in your Comfort Zone: when you shop you may feel bold and adventurous from the dopamine in your system from trying on something fun or purchasing something new. But when you get home, you realize that you are not ready to get out of your comfort zone. When reality sinks in that you have to wear it outside of your house, it makes you doubt yourself because you feel uncomfortable. It may make you feel “weird” or think that it doesn’t look right. However, when we push through that uncomfortable feeling, we grow and we get used to it. You just need to overcome that first few feelings and then all of a sudden a new way of dressing can be opened up for you. You will get used to seeing yourself in something new and different…it doesn’t mean that you can’t pull it off. Wear it more until it becomes your new “norm”. As an analogy, if you add a new plant into your living room, every time you walk into the room, you are going to notice it. However, as time goes on, it becomes your new norm. The same is for your clothes! It is OKAY to experiment and have FUN with your clothes.
2. You are more focused on the SALE rather than how the piece fits into your wardrobe: I have been SO guilty of this. To the point that I avoid sale racks and thrift shopping until I can get clear on my wardrobe plan and priority list. I justify buying something I don’t really need or know how it will fit into my closet because of the “rush” of the sale or cause it is so cheap. However, that piece OFTEN hangs unused in my closet. If I was to add up all the $$ I spent on these sale pieces, then I would have enough $$ to buy an investment piece or a piece that I loved and made SENSE in my closet. I would MUCH rather have one piece I love and wear more, then multiple pieces of clothing that I don’t.
3. Stop being afraid of the judgement of others: I get it, as humans, we are designed to fit in. We are even hardwired to want to socially fit in for survival. So, we may buy a piece that makes us feel amazing, but we are too scared to be “too fancy” or “too dressed up”. I have had someone criticize me cause I always am put together. That is about THEM, not ME. I hear so many women want to dress down in their office even though it doesn’t make them feel good JUST so they can fade in the background and not be noticed. So you buy the pieces you love, but never wear cause you are too worried about making others feel comfortable over yourself. We are not here to dim our light to make others feel more comfortable. Wear the things that increases your energy and confidence.
4. You want the easy fix: You are not sure what you like or how to create outfits that make you feel amazing, so you keep buying and purging in hopes that it will magically happen through trial & error. I want women to see their closets as an investment, whether you spend $10 or $100 on a piece. It is still your money and it should be put towards something you are happy with and that serves you. When you buy a car, you research and you plan. you think about what you want and what you don’t want. I want women to think the same way about their wardrobe.
5. You are not altering pieces to fit you: We are all made beautifully and we are also made to be unique. So, even though you see a piece on someone else or on a mannequin, it doesn’t mean it will look the same on you. Not all clothes are made for every body shape, size or height and pieces can look different on everyone. There is nothing wrong with your body, it could be that the piece just wasn’t made for you or it needs to be altered. Dress the largest part of your body and then get it altered to fit elsewhere. I recently found my hubbies vest in his closet and I stole it. It gaped at my breasts and I couldn’t button it up because of my hips. So, I took it to a tailor and she made one super easy fix to make it fit me perfectly. I could have given up or worn it when it didn’t fit properly and never felt good in it. Now I have a prized piece in my wardrobe that will give me SO many new outfit options.
Now I am challenging you to dig that piece out that you are holding on to, but not wearing and analyze as to maybe why you are not wearing it. If it’s simply out of your comfort zone, then wear it a few times and see if it grows on you or finally decide if it just not “YOU”. If it doesn’t fit, take it to be altered!
If this sounds too overwhelming for you and you don’t know where to start, then I have a solution for you!
I am launching a new service called the simplySTYLISH Inner Circle membership where I am helping my members get clear on their style, their closet and outfits. I am teaching and guiding them on how to feel less frustrated in their closet and more confident in their clothes. If this is YOU, then learn more –> HERE